Don't tell me that you understand

I hear it all the time 
I'm so sorry,
I totally understand 
I can't imagine...
No really: You Don't, You can't and you never will...

You weren't there
You weren't pregnant with him.
You weren't on the table when they couldn't find his heartbeat. 
You don't have an empty nursery
You don't have a c section scar
You don't have your baby in an urn....
So stop saying you get it...


Don't tell me that you understand
Don't tell me that you know
Don't tell me that I will survive
How I will surely grow.

Don't tell me this is just a test
That I am truly blessed
That I am chosen for this task
Apart from all the rest

Don't come at me with answers
That can only come from me
Don't tell me how my grief will pass
That I will soon be free

Don't stand in pious judgment
Of the bounds I must untie
Don't tell me how to suffer
And don't tell me how to cry


Anonymous