1 year 4 months

41,904,000 seconds
698,400 minutes
11,640 hours
485 days
69 weeks 

and 2 days

Since I found out I lost my son.

I would like to say that things are getting easier but that's a lie. 

I find it harder and harder to enjoy Carter with Bug being in the background.

I am both happy and sad on a daily basis. 

Every day is more and more of a roller coaster ride that seems to never end. 

I was asked recently by a close friend how we were going to explain Bug to Carter.

Honestly I hadn't really thought that far just yet

There is a book called  " One that came before you" that explains, in children terms, that there was a baby that passed. 

I have read other blogs were kids as young as 5 understand that they had a brother or sister but that he or she isn't here anymore. 

I guess that we will just have to go with our gut and see how things pan out. 

I don't want to be that family that  acts as thought there was no Bug, and sadly there are families that do that for many reasons.

Either its too painful, highly frowned upon by family, or they feel as thought the baby never lived so it wasn't really a baby. 

How anyone could feel like that is beyond me.